HAVING A SIBLING MAKES BOYS SELFLESS
A new study brings
good news to all the brothers out there: Having a sibling is just as good for
you as it is for your sister.
That's
surprising to family scholars because boys typically report that they benefit
less than girls from peer relationships.
"In
our study, most relationships were not as important for boys as they were for
girls," said study co-author Laura Padilla-Walker. "But the sibling
relationship was different -- they seemed to report relying on sibling
affection just as much as girls do. It's an area where parents and therapists
could really help boys."
Padilla-Walker
and fellow Brigham Young University professor Jim Harper found that siblings
uniquely promote the development of sympathy. A quality relationship with a
brother or sister also increased teens' levels of altruism, also known as
prosocial behavior.
"Having
a sibling you can count on seems to make a difference especially for prosocial
behavior," said Harper. "Best friends make a contribution, but
siblings still matter."
The
BYU researchers followed 308 pairs of teenage siblings for three years. The
project measured their development and tracked the quality of their
relationships with friends and family members.
"This
was the first siblings study to control for all these other important
relationships," Padilla-Walker said. "We can say that siblings are
uniquely important, which is encouraging."
The
message for parents is that helping their children have a positive relationship
with each other will yield lasting rewards. Boys who have a hostile
relationship with a sibling were significantly more likely to have behavioral
problems later on. But the researchers caution that just breaking up fights
isn't enough.
"The
absence of conflict does not mean the presence of affection,"
Padilla-Walker said. "It's ok if siblings fight but help them get through
that and have other positive interactions."
Harper
is the lead author of the study, which appears in the Journal
of Research on Adolescence.
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